Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi introduced Flow Theory in the 1970s after his surprising research led to his understanding that people are motivated when they are involved in intense activities that they are passionate about, and which gain their full attention.
The media (film, tv shows, books and music) have for years misinterpreted romantic behaviour and have promoted stalking behaviours instead. Following someone, making exaggerated expressions of affection, calling, sending messages, gifts and watching someone out of sight have all been normalised as part of the courtship. Stalking is also found is cases where a couple has separated or divorced, and one of the two parties wishes for the relationship to continue so he or she will conduct “grant gestures” or “persist” until they win the other person back. What is never discussed in these romantic films or tv shows or musical lyrics is how the person who is being pursued feels about this unwanted attention.